So at the age of 33, the sentence I have most often heard spoken to me, has been: "You have such a pretty face, why don’t you try and lose the weight?' Now what has kept this sentence interesting to me over the years, has of course been the many variations in tone it can be said in and they honestly vary anywhere from: deeply concerned (parents and loved ones), deeply puzzled (friends and colleagues), to deeply condescending (anybody else really).
How could one tell the difference?
Admittedly, the different tones in which the words are uttered can go unnoticed to the normal, unsuspecting ear, but if you’ve been fat most of your life, the intent is quite unmistakable.
Anywaaay, let’s leave the past in the past, and fast forward to the blog.
So 33 years old... - that is eight years older than the original 25 I had planned (at the tender age of 7) to be married at, and three years older than the original 30 I had planned on retiring from childbirth, with daughter number three might i add. So yea, way behind!
So here’s the single most important obstacle between me and my goal: *No man will marry you - or at least get to know you know with the intent of marrying you - If you are fat anywhere past being described as ‘voluptuous’ and I don’t care how pretty your face is!
Hence - the start of weight-loss program!
*All right, i know what you sceptics are thinking, i too have spotted the handful of fine looking men strolling hand in hand with their fat girlfriends/fiancees/wives but how common are those men i ask you? Right, that's what i thought! ;)
W-L program coming up tomorrow -
Gnight everyone :)
Dear Sahara, as you mentioned there are men who do not care about looks or fitness of their partner, but what about those who do? as a partner shouldn't you do activities together? are you able to partner someone like that or do you plan to live seperate lives? would you be comfortable with someone who doesn't care about their appearance and or their health and fitness? My question is, what do you think when you see a person who has let go and doesn't take care of themselves? Of course i'm not talking about those with a medical condition.
ReplyDeleteDearest Prich,
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comment! :)
I understand where you are going with this, believe me!
I wouldn't like it either if my partner let go of himself and didn't pay attention to his appearance.
Nor would I feel good about having to leave my partner behind when doing outdoorsy activities only because he is not up to the task.
There really is no excuse for sabotaging your health, your relationships and your God given natural beauty only to OVER-eat!
So yes, I agree with you, whole-heartedly.